Dominance vs. Submission
Consistent with the narcissism/empathy dynamic to male/female dynamics is the dominance/submission dynamic to male/female dynamics. Dominance in a male is a turn on, while submission in a male is a turn off. Dominance indicates good genes while submission indicates bad genes.
On the otherhand, submission in a female is a turn on while dominance in a female is a turn off. Submission has to do with femininity and indicates good genes while dominance is the opposite of femininity and indicates bad genes.
The following is the natural attraction dynamic where both are turned on in a virtuous reinforcing cycle: