“Whomever has the strongest belief about how reality ‘is’ and can communicate it to others most effectively will bring their reality into being”
In the dominant reality, your needs come first and the decision-making is done by you. You are independent of any stimuli occurring, only pursuing your intentionality in all interactions. You are unreactive to any phenomena coming from men and women.
Women want a man that is in control of their shared reality and is unwavering in his leadership within it. That the male is a cause in the world rather than an effect. Take a look at the chapter on narcissism vs. empathy and dominance vs. submission.